A few years ago the only place we saw masks being worn was in a medical facility or at a costume party. When Covid hit with a vengeance, we were suddenly instructed to wear them – some even said to do so at home. At last, though, the mask mandate was dropped and the majority of people gladly rid themselves of them, though there are still a few out and about who prefer to wear them.
There was and still is a place where we receive instructions on wearing and mask and that is on an airplane. The flight attendant goes through a litany of instructions, showing how the mask drops down when needed and describing the proper placement, adding the key phrase, “Be sure to put your own mask on first.”
This strikes us as odd and supremely selfish.
But, wait. There’s a reason for it. If you don’t put yours on first, you can’t be a help to anyone else and may even then become a hindrance yourself.
This is a hard concept for many people to grasp when they become a parent or are thrust into the role of caregiver for a loved one. Being in this spot can easily take over one’s life and may then devour both the caregiver as well as the one being cared for. I have witnessed many a friend or family member become so immersed in what they must do that they totally forget to refill their own tank. It’s then easy to become completely drained. When this happens, it’s not good for anyone.
Are you in this role: parent of a busy household or caring for a loved one? Both can be 24 hour/day jobs. It’s something you want to do, but when the tank runs dry, then what?
The airlines have it right! Put your own mask on first. Arrange some time for yourself. Ask for help. Anyone who walks away totally is irresponsible. But, someone who takes a little time away to rest and refresh is being sensible. Even the Lord Jesus took time away to spend with the Father and be refreshed (Matthew 26:36).
“The Lord will give strength to His people; the Lord will bless His people with peace.” (Psalm 29:11)
“He leads me beside the still waters, He restores my soul…” (Psalm 23:2-3)
As, usual, such wise advice, Teri! Love, hugs and blessings, Pam
Great point! We often fail to take care of ourselves. it makes us feel selfish and guilty. But, the opposite is actually true. If we fail ourselves, we ultimately fail everyone! So… we need to give ourselves permission to do the right thing! While fellow parents were staying up at night waiting for kids to get home I always went to bed early. I believed I needed to be rested if I got a call in the night!!
Thank you for another good, refreshing and practical word! I don’t know how you do it week after week.
Take time for yourself! It will pay off in the long run and other’s will benefit and thank you for it!!
My grandmother, who came to our country from Yugoslavia could hardly speak English, but whenever she saw any of her kids or grandkids overdoing it, she’s tell us to “take five.” She was a wise woman.
Thanks Cousin!
A wonderful and sometimes painful lesson to learn….